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O’Ahmad O’Abdullah O’Mahdi from You O’Ahlul Bayt is Goodness And in You O’Ahlul Bayt is Goodness And Upon You O’Ahlul Bayt is Goodness
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Quietness VS Talkativeness
Speech an important key in moral discussions, the mental, emotional and sentimental events all first emerge on the tongue and within a man’s speeches. The Ahl al Bayt [as] in narrations have warned people about the destruction of excessive speech. Excessive talkativeness has many vices such as: Speaking about affairs not concerned with man, ranting, speaking about forbidden affairs, quarrelling, abusive speech, mockery , hypocrisy in speech, lies, gossip, slander, indulgence in humour, self-admiration, accusations, harshness, and many more.
The importance of this subject quietness vs talkativeness is to consider the fact the tongue is the simplest and easiest means available for man, so to be careful of it, and to use it for good purpose. To protect and be watchful over the tongue. The following are narrations and verses from the Quran regarding excessive talking.
Sulayman-ibn-Mahran said that he visited Imam Al Sadiq [as] while some of the followers (Shi'ah) were attending him [as] and he heard that the Imam [as] addressing them, said: "(Behave) to be as ornaments for us and not to be against us as shame. Tell people of goodness, and protect your tongues and hold it from excessive talk and offensive speech."
Imam Ali (AS) has said: “The greatest folly is the exaggeration in praising and blaming people.” Ghurar al-Hikam.
“O you who believe! Be not like those who spoke evil things of Musa, but Allah cleared him of what they had said, and he was worthy of regard with Allah. O you who believe! Be careful of (your duty to) Allah and speak the right word.” Qur'an, 33:69-70.
The Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “Hold your tongue!” Jami‘ al-Sa‘adat, p. 373.
Imam Baqir, the fifth Imam, [a] said: "No one is safe from sins unless the one controls his/her tongue." Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 78, p. 178
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “What throws man into fire are two hollow things; the mouth and the private parts (lusts).” Ibid.
It is related that a man came to the Holy Prophet (SAW), saying to him: “Give me an advice!” The Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “Hold your tongue!” The man asked again: “Give me an advice!” The Messenger of Allah (a.s.) said: “Hold your tongue!” For the third time, the man asked: “Give me an advice!” The Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “Hold your tongue! Woe to you! Will people be thrown into Fire on their faces except for what they have reaped by their tongues?” Bihar al-Anwar, p. 303.
It is also reported that a man came to the Holy Prophet (SAW), saying: “Give me an advice!” The Holy prophet (SAW) said: “Serve Allah as if you see Him and count yourself among the dead.” Then the Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “Shall I inform you about a thing which is more effective than these? Then he pointed to his tongue.” Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 68, p. 303.
He has also said: “Surely Allah is near the tongue of every speaker. Therefore, one has to observe Taqwa in what he says.” Ibid.
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) has been reported as saying: “Whoever observes the burden of responsibility and the suffering of the tongue and is abstinent as to his abdomen and lusts, shall enter Paradise.” Ibid., p. 287.
Imam Ali (AS) has been reported as saying: “By Allah, I do not think that the fear of Allah benefits a man, unless he controls his tongue.” Nahj al-Balaghah, vol. 1 p. 561.
Imam Ali (AS) has also said: “Man is hidden under his tongue.” Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 68, p. 374.
Therefore, weigh your sayings and then present them to your wits! If what you want to say is for God and His way, say them, for what is there between the Creator and the creature of secrets, sciences and treasures comes through speaking and revelation, and if it is not so, then silence is better, because speaking is like wine which intoxicates that one. Try then to say what causes guidance and not sedition and mischief. Try to say what promotes Islam and Muslims. Do not say anything that may create division and discord among Muslims and lead to bloodletting. Do not say anything that may dishonour people. In this relation, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) has been reported as saying: “God will punish the tongue with a punishment that no other part of body shall be punished with. The tongue shall say: ‘O Lord! Will you punish me with a punishment that no other part of the body shall be punished with?’ It shall be said to the tongue: ‘From you came out a word that reached the east and the west of the earth and caused blood to be shed unlawfully, assets were looted unlawfully, and women were violated unlawfully. By My glory! I will punish you with a punishment that I have not punished any other part of the body with its like.” Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 62, p. 304.
Imam Sajjad (AS) has been reported as saying: “The human tongue gains control over other parts of the body every day. So it will ask: ‘How did you spend the night?’ The other parts of the body shall say: ‘we are well if you leave us alone to ourselves. The parts of the body seek refuge with God, saying to the tongue: ‘we are rewarded and punished because of you.’” Jami‘ al-Sa‘adat, p. 374.
If you think carefully about this flesh (tongue), you will realize that its size is little, but it is the source of offences, mischief, and corruption. All the lies told in global conferences, media, negative propaganda, false claims about God, prophets, Imams, religious authorities, and other vices like slandering, backbiting, reproaches, derisions, baseless debates, false evidences, and sarcastic statements come from the very tongue! To sum it up, belief and disbelief, guidance and deviation, knowledge and ignorance, truth and falsehood arise from the tongue. It is for the same reason that the tongue is said to have a great role in illusions, rational science, imaginations, observations, tangibles, tastes as well as things heard and seen. Hence, God Almighty has ordered the Holy Prophet and the Imams to observe Taqwa in relation to tongue. Such companions of the Holy Prophet (SAW) as Abu -Tharr have recommended us to control our tongues, saying: “O seeker of knowledge! This tongue is a key to good and evil. Therefore, put a seal on your tongue in the same way that you put a seal on gold, silver, coins and your manuscripts.” Bihar al-Anwar,vol. 68, p. 301.
The merits of quietness are many and the one whom is quiet can gain from his quietness by observing and reflecting on things around him or within him. Adopting quietness increases wisdom , teaches valuable lessons and increases intellect. The ego , thrives on foolishness, and feeds on impulsive actions and speech is part of action. Quietness helps gain control, control over emotions, thoughts, and ego. The following are narrations and verses from the Holy Quran regarding quietness.
There are many narrations on the merits of silence. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) has been reported by Imam Sadiq as saying: “Silence is an abundant treasure. It is an ornament for the patient and a cover for the ignorant.” Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 68, p. 294.
Imam Reza (AS) has been reported as saying: “Some of the signs of jurisprudence are endurance, knowledge and silence. Surely, silence is one of the doors to wisdom. Verily, silence wins love. It is certainly a proof of every good.” Ibid.
Imam Baqir (AS) has been reported by Abu Hamzah as saying: “Surely, our followers are those who are silent.” Ibid., p. 295.
Imam Amir-ul-Mu'mineen Ali [a] said: "Do contemplate before speaking so that you may guard yourself from (committing) errs." Ghurar-uI-Hikam, p. 228
It has been related that some of the companions of the Holy Prophet (SAW) put pebbles in their mouths. They brought them out whenever they felt what they were saying was for the sake of God, in the way of God and for nearness to God. They would also put a piece of paper before them to write about their daily deeds. At night, they would review it, saying to themselves: ‘Ah! Those who were silent were delivered and we have remained behind!’ Safeenat al-Bihar, vol. 2, p. 50.
Quietness causes a condition of "reflection" and "spirituality" and "clear-sightedness", which is noteworthy, and perhaps for this reason we read in the biography of Prophet Zachariah [as], God's great prophet that three days of his silence and dumbness was put as the sign of fulfilment of his supplication concerning request for child. From the Holy Quran He said, “My Lord, give me a sign.” He said, “Your sign is that you will not speak to the people for three nights straight.”[19:10] And Lady Mary [as] was ordered to vow silence fast: “So eat, and drink, and be consoled. And if you see any human, say, ‘I have vowed a fast to the Most Gracious, so I will not speak to any human today.'“[19:26] And we read about the states of Prophet Muhammad [pbuhap] that before revelation, he has been silent and reflected, and meditated about the mysteries of creation in Hara cave for several days.